Monday, December 26, 2005

no money shots

Ok, short sweet and to the point, seriously what is it with cumming in a girl's face? Unthink1 and I want to know. I really don't get it. There is only one thing I won't let a man do and it's this, you can not cum on my face, or for that matter anywhere on me. You can cum in me, but not on me. What's it all about? Clue a girl in.

My ex, on our first date, I was giving him a hand job, dick right in my face, and he said, "I can't cum in your face can I?"
I totally broke character and said in a very strong, but low voice, not if you ever want to see me again. Needless to say, he didn't cum in my face.

...disclaimer: when I say this is the only thing, I am going on the assumption that you all know I am not talking about water sports, some sort of freaky ass bondage (some bandage is ok, just not freaky ass bondage, too much pressure. I'd probably forget my "safe" word. It would turn ugly. I would be telling him to stop, only that would mean keep going and I would be pissed and he would be all hot and bothered. I would then have to smack the shit out of him)anything where either person is in pain or being hurt, humiliated ect, or anything else I can't think of at this time.

...please men, answer this riddle, what's it all about?

20 comments:

loveschoolhouserock said...

I agree...inquiring minds want to know...good question party girl! I've never had that happen to me, but I can't imagine "I" would enjoy it in any way.

Kilt Trip said...

You're on your own on this one.

Intense said...

Partygirl- Love how you are getting to the bottom of this. Where is Will...he has good insights.

Tachae said...

they LOVE to know that they are the man and blah blah its a dominance thing - me tarzan me cum on your face!

Eric the Something said...

Got me on this one. I have only ever seen it in porn. And I fast forward past it. Never done, nor know of anyone who has. (It has been a topic of conversation with many of my friends.)

Allen Forbis said...

I am going to pull the bs flag on E.T.S. No guy fast forwards thru any part of a porn except the dialogue. It is not a matter of where the cum goes. More a matter of not ruining the climax by having to worry about where it lands.

Jay said...

To answer your question, it is an act of dominance not entirely unlike a "golden shower". Regardless of the outward motivation, it is intended to degrade and humiliate, as if to say, " I can can spread my seed wherever I fucking want!"

I myself have done it once or twice, but within the context of a BDSM relationship.

BTW, love your blog. I read it often.

Will said...

I like Jay. He can stay.

Pussycat said...

Maybe it is a dominance thing, but I think I enjoy nearly as much as my husband does, and we in no way have a BDSM relationship.

Intense said...

Party Girl- Are we satisfied?

Party Girl said...

ok, the dominance thing makes sense and seems to be the most popular answer, but honestly I still don't get it. I think it's a porn thing. Too many people have gotten their sex education from porn. That's another topic. Wait, I think I just found my next topic.

Ho-Me-G said...

I think it's a turn off. None of the women look like they're really into it. Big clue right there that maybe it's not a smart thing to do.

Only once in my life has a woman said to me that she wanted my cum on her face. I obliged and then licked it off and fed it to her in my mouth. That led to some serious rollicking fun 'cuz it kicked things up a notch. But she's the only one...

Personally, I prefer the mingle of juices in other places. That leads to frothy goodness. Yummy :)

wavslidn said...

Yup, I think it is a porn inspired thing that somebody somwhere thought would help a guy get off. Maybe it is me, but it has never done anything for me. I have been with a couple chics that did make the request - it kinda creeped me out. I guess it is a little bit "safer" than other places and maybe she does not like to swallow but thinks that the guy will like it.

Do you prefer a chest shot instead?

Party Girl said...

wavslind: A chest shot is better, but honestly the money shot makes me gag and I tend to look away. I don't know why. I love making a man cum, I love the sounds he makes and I love to swallow. However, the money shot? gag.

wavslidn said...

You love to swallow, really? Where do the make girls like you? I went out with one girl in college who loved to swallow but since then have not come across another. I have met a few girls who would, but it was like pulling teeth and there had to be alot of alcohol involved. Knowing that a chic is not really into it kinda kills it and makes for a not so good hummer anyway. I have been asked why guys liked it so much and I said it has to be the same for girls. I dont know any girl who would enjoy having a guy go down on them and then right about the time they climax, he stops and finishes it off with just his finger. Do you think that is a fair comparison? I still get told that swallowing is "gross". I need your help in spreading the word.

MrHinge said...

I could see it being a dominance thing. I could see it being a porn thing to, and since I was never told about the birds and the bee's and my primary education came from porn. Well, what do you know I like to cum on a girls face now and again, more than anything is to just pull out and see it fly through the air a random number of feet. Good thing Pussycat doesn't mind this on the occasion I want to see it land on her face (she even let's me take pics), yeah we're pretty kinked out.

Ask her for a womans opinion, and maybe she can provide a little more insight.

Party Girl said...

duck: hey I'm all for kink and whatever gets you and the other person off, I'm all for it.
Whatchya say pussycat?

Pussycat said...

I say, it's exactly like you said, Party Girl, whatever gets you off. The way I see it, you have to take into consideration what the other person likes/enjoys/wants, just as much as you have to respect what they do not like/enjoy/want.

That being said, just knowing how much he enjoys seeing the mess all over the place turns me on, and makes me want to do it for him that much more.

DarthImmortal said...

I think this is all a porn thing. Like you said in a later post that porn is mostly fake. It seems like most of the guys that are into this don't really care much for their partner. It's a bragging thing.

clint said...

my current g/f doesn't seem to have a problem with me comming in her face or mouth. I imagine she has had previous b/f's who have loved to do this so she has become accustomed to it..either way, it is a turn on for me.. but if she didn't like it, i wouldn't do it.